How Do You Know If You’re Marrying the Right Person? | Daniella Rabbani

Ring, ring! It's 1-800-BRIDESMAID.
Author and professional bridesmaid Jen Glantz brings her hit newsletter to life in this judgment-free space for messy wedding, friendship, and relationship dilemmas.
This week, Jen is joined by Daniella Rabbani — host of the Mom Curious podcast, actor, singer, and filmmaker. Daniella has built a career around telling untold stories of women, performing in Yiddish across the world, and refusing to give advice she's not qualified to give. She's also one of the most honest voices you'll hear on what it actually looks like to build a 19-year love story, survive devastating loss, and figure out who your real friends are when everything in your life changes overnight.
Together, Jen and Daniella unpack the relationship questions almost no one talks about — from how you actually know the person you're marrying doesn't suck, to why asking for advice is mostly bullshit, to the wedding industrial complex preying on first-time brides, to the moment your bridesmaids stop being your friends.
But today's listener question hits a nerve almost everyone has felt.
A single woman writes in about her best friend — a married woman who has started romanticizing her single life. It began with subtle comments, then long calls about how invisible she feels and whether she's still in love with her husband. The listener has been a good friend through it all. But lately she's been cast as a symbol of everything her friend didn't choose. And she's sitting on her own side of the equation thinking: I'm lonely too. I've been on 14 bad dates. And neither of us can say any of that out loud.
Jen and Daniella break down why this friendship is in trouble, what the married friend actually needs (hint: not her single friend's life), and why some friendships are meant to go on pause — or end entirely — when your lives stop matching up.
Episode Highlights:

- Why "you cannot marry someone who sucks" is the only dating rule that matters
- How losing her sister gave Daniella x-ray vision into every relationship in her life
- The truth about advice: why we ask for it, why we don't take it, and why your therapist is right to never give it
- Getting married on a street corner during Covid — and the Jewish guilt that followed
- Why the wedding industry preys on first-time brides (juice cleanses, 10 dresses, $20K photographers)
- The bridesmaid friendship breakup almost no one warns you about
- How to tell the difference between a deep friendship and a colleague
- Why jealousy quietly destroys more friendships than betrayal does
- The "this is supposed to be fun" test for whether a friendship is still working
- Why friendship breakups hurt more than romantic ones — and why they're so much harder to repair

If you've ever felt a friendship slipping, been called "exhausting" for asking to be seen, or watched your group chat go quiet as your life took a different shape than theirs — this episode is full of honest, no-BS conversation about love, marriage, motherhood, and the friendships that change us, whether they stay or go.